Breaking up isn't always hard to do

I’ve just done something that I’ve only done twice before in my life - I’ve just “broken up” with a friend.  

All relationships are supposed to enhance your life; whether it’s a friend or a lover, that person should make your life better (even in some small way) by being a part of it.  I’m not talking about 100% of the time - everyone goes through difficulties, everyone needs support, everyone has their own stuff going on.  The main purpose of a friend can’t just be to make your life better - they have their own life to lead.

But when you repeatedly contact them and they don’t reply; when you repeatedly try to organise seeing them but it never happens; when you realise that the only time you ever hear from them is when they want something; when you start to feel bad because you never hear from that person... well, then it’s time to accept that the relationship has run its course and it’s time to say goodbye.

There comes a time when “I’m hopeless at staying in touch” just doesn’t cut it as an excuse anymore.  No, you're not hopeless at staying in touch, you're just lazy or thoughtless.  There's the phone, text messaging, Skype, Facebook and LinkedIn - there's no excuse not to be in touch, other than not wanting to be.  You can’t be a friend to someone if you never have any contact with them, so perhaps I’m not doing anything other than accepting a fait accompli.  Either way, deleting them from Skype, Facebook, LinkedIn and my contacts book felt pretty damned good...